Leaders Amongst Mothers
Back in 2017, I started hosting a support group for muslim mothers who are invested in their children's education, upbringing and tarbiyah.
I opened my home and heart to women who are just like me, who struggle with the endless advice on raising children, on ways to educate children, on homeschooling resources etc.
I shared what I was learning and discovering on my journey, my mistakes and many insights gained from books, endless research on the wide variety of subjects and growing personal experience.
I also invited sisters from my local community to share something from their knowledge or expertise with this community.
We challenged the status quo and the latest parenting trends, we discussed educational philosophies, discipline techniques and home education at length. As our knowledge grew month by month, we found ourselves getting free, bit by bit from the shackles of the "do's" and "don'ts", the endless irrelevant advice.
With growing knowledge, comes a deeper understanding on what truly matters, what we must say yes to and what can be ignored because we do not have infinite time and energy to seek all the information that is available let alone apply it.
The purpose of this gathering space was to create a judgment free space where we can share our unique skills, knowledge, and wrestle with the norms that hold us hostage. It helped us realign with our purpose, lean into the wisdom of our deen, encourage each other, discuss our concerns and grow together as a community.
Raising children with ehsan calls for relentless effort and sacrifice. This invisible and often unappreciated work is worth celebrating and acknowledging so it continues to fuel us and keep us going.
With time, these support meetings evolved into a focused effort to reclaim our role as mothers through a wide array of programs, grass roots initiatives, co-operative classes, workshops, conferences and courses that have helped hundreds of families from all over the world la haula wala kuwata illa billah (There is no power and no strength except with Allah)
We are now a worldwide community of mothers from Australia to Barbados, Switzerland to Maldives, United States to Pakistan, Canada to United Kingdom... the list goes on.
Our community includes mothers at various stages in their journey reclaiming their power and cultivating their homes.
While some of us are contributors, some are eager learners, some are struggling and some are thriving but we all come together and share our lessons generously. We share our mistakes and embrace the vulnerability of it all.
Our programs are firmly rooted in islamic principles of tarbiyah and prophetic leadership, it incorporates evidence based theories and research on neuroscience, child development, educational psychology and developmental psychology especially attachment based development approaches.
We aspire to follow in the footsteps of our prophets (peace be upon them all) and strive to apply the guidance from Allah's book and sunnah of the prophet (saw)
An integrated, interdisciplinary framework 'Visionary Home EducationTM' guides our work and programs. This framework evolved with growing experience in working with mothers. With endless research, training and ideating simple yet effective solutions that resolve the common challenges in home education and tarbiyah.
This innovative, integrated approach to parenting, tarbiyah and home education is a step away from the traditional silo based approaches that keep us drowning in endless busywork that yields little gain. Instead this holistic approach simplifies family life and makes our work easy and sustainable while still leaving us time to nurture ourselves.
We can have high aspirations for our children, we can strive to give them a solid foundation and raise them to become life long learners and doers. While this is a significant decision, it does not mean we have to put our own lives on hold. There is really a better way! And it is surprisingly simple and effective, one that not only sets you up for success but helps you envision and build a life that brings joy and nourishment to the entire family.
We have One Goal. One mission.
Raise ourselves as we raise our children.
We can strive everyday to honor Allah's commandments with gratitude in our hearts while seeking His pleasure and raising the next generation with excellence.
Everyday is an opportunity to embody the many important life lessons we wish to teach our children.
We can travel alongside these little companions on this journey and live each day with intention, gifting ourselves a wholesome, meaningful life where learning and living are not separate and growth is for everyone
We can gift ourselves a wholesome education alongside our children. An education that does not depend on checklists or assignments but rather on meaningful relationships and enlightening shared experiences.
We can lead by example and teach in the most powerful and effective manner.
Don't we already know this?
Didn't the prophet(saw) teach in this manner and left a beautiful legacy worth following?
Allah(swt) has exclusively chosen us for this noble work.
We can embrace motherhood with all its messiness and imperfections trusting that it will suffice, not because we are 'enough' but because Allah is enough as a helper and guide.
We can cultivate an environment in our homes where children thrive and grow to their full human potential.
We can strive to lead with love and establish a secure home base for our children where they can grow physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
Schools don't raise children, we raise them in our homes. Let us make our homes sanctuaries where our children can count on our abundant, unconditional love, where we do the sacred work of not just nourishing their bodies but also their minds and souls.
Our homes where we build memories of enriching shared experiences... where we laugh, we play, we cry, we grow, we pray and we learn together.
We can cultivate a home life where their curious minds can seek Allah, where they can see His love and mercy manifest in the abundant Signs around them. We can, with our secure attachment, gradually connect their tender hearts to Allah (swt) and His messenger Rasul'Allah (saws).
As a community of mothers who reclaim their power and leadership, we get to strive each day for something worthy and meaningful not just for our children but for us as well.
We get to reorient ourselves individually and collectively towards Allah(swt) and renew our intentions each day.
We remind each other to stay firm and steadfast, ground ourselves in sound knowledge and anchor our hearts with Allah's guidance and promise.
We get to answer this inner calling and accept this invitation to leave our trail. We get to build our life, transform our families and with it transform the ummah. In'sha'Allah
Mothers can transform nations.
Armed with love in our hearts, strength of iman (faith) and complete trust and tawakkul in Allah(swt), we get to rise up each day and strive!
I invite you to join the movement.